There’s a time and place to forgive. It’s no accident that everyone, at some point, learns the meaning of forgiveness. Sometimes it’s because we’re the ones who need to forgive, other times it’s because we’re the ones who need to be forgiven. Lack of forgiveness creates emotional and psychic blockage. In that way, we can see that forgiving is something we choose to do.
Forgiveness is work.
Sometimes the work of forgiveness is a conscious effort. We decide to forgive someone for what they’ve done, but it doesn’t really feel like we’ve forgiven them. That’s the work of forgiveness; to decide to forgive, yet still feeling the pain. Deciding to forgive begins the process of emotional healing.
It’s been said that forgiveness is more about the person doing the forgiving than the person being forgiven. I think forgiveness is beneficial for everyone involved. Forgiveness isn’t the same as approving of someone’s actions, or liking what someone did, but rather, it’s about letting go of the hold that past actions have on our lives.
There’s a time and place to forgive.
Maybe that time is now.
Only you can know for sure.
- Forgiveness vs. Reconciliation (psychologytoday.com)