By all means, let’s hope, wish, dream, like, or dislike anything and everything we so choose — that’s our privilege — but to believe that anything “should” be a certain way is an error in thinking, and probably contributes to our sense of suffering.
Believing things should be a certain way implies that we know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, how things really should be, which doesn’t seem true.
If something can happen, and does happen, then that is the way it should be, because that’s what happened. We have the right to think it should be another way, and to work on making things the way we want, but that’s the world from our viewpoint, and sometimes we change our minds, or life shows us the way it really works.
There’s also nothing we should do. We have a choice in what we do — even being alive is a choice — that is, until we don’t have a choice, in which case we can still choose to accept things as they are right now, and realize that we don’t, and can’t, control everything (as painful as that may be to accept).
So let’s exercise our power of choice, but no more shoulding over things.
- The Pain of Would’ve, Could’ve, Should’ve… (shinyhappyhealthy.com)
- Secret Agent Starbucks (gettingbetterman.wordpress.com)
- Connecting to the Higher Self (gettingbetterman.wordpress.com)
- R-e-p-r-e-s-e-n-t (gettingbetterman.wordpress.com)