Doing something for the greater good was something I’d heard about, and understood conceptually, but it wasn’t until recently that I really began to understand what it meant.
I have certain desires when it comes to having a relationship with the right woman for me, whether she happens to be my ex-girlfriend, or someone else, and yet I’m now finding fulfillment in reconnecting with my family, improving myself, growing my career, and writing for my blog. These are things that contribute to the greater good. Of course, being with the right woman for me can also be for the greater good.
It’s not that I couldn’t find things between me and my ex to get angry or worry about, it’s that I’m enjoying my life outside of that particular area. It used to anger me to think that my ex was out having fun with new friends, lovers, and being with people who I thought were my friends and family who seemed to turn away from me. I don’t know what to think or how to feel about any of that. I just know that we all want to be happy, and being happy is part of the greater good.
Finding a way to be happy – in any area of life – is happiness.
I met my ex’s sister today, and her (the sister’s) kids, and it was really great. Seeing the kids reminded me that they don’t care about reasons and justifications. They just like having fun and being happy, and I realize that they care about me, and I care about them. Having fun and being happy is what I believe in, but I thought I had to give up certain things in order to be that way, but that’s not true. Things don’t have to be a certain way in order to have fun and be happy.
It’s a choice.