If I’m honest (which I am), I realize that I’ve put the approval of others before my own, and no matter how I try to justify, it isn’t right. It’s an ego thing, and I don’t mean that in a negative way; it’s natural. The ego is all about the approval and disapproval of things, so I was (almost) completely loyal to that perspective. Taking that as far as I could allowed me to know who I am.
I know what it feels like to get stuck in the mud, and I know how to get myself out of it. I don’t know what others think, and I don’t know how to get them out of the mud if they insist on staying there. It’s OK if you find yourself stepping into the mud (and by mud, I mean negative thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and situations), but don’t dig yourself deeper into it. Do the ol’ quicksand trick; relax and float. Soon a helpful branch will arrive to pull you up’n’out of the mud.
Writing for GBM is one of my branches out of the mud. It doesn’t matter how or why there’s mud, or how we got stuck in the first place. What matters is that we keep calm and find a branch.