I’ve learned that when certain things cease to matter, that’s when I know I’ve transcended it. Things come up that used to get to me, but now they don’t matter like they used to. At the same time, certain things matter even more than before, like self-cultivation.
It seems like self-confidence naturally springs from wisdom, and wisdom is essentially self-awareness. These are transcendent virtues; they can be applied to anything. When all of the BS is swept away, what’s left is a confident, natural, and powerful core.
Most of the work of self-improvement is the maintenance of a positive attitude. This includes the story we tell ourselves about why things happen the way they do. My story is one of redemption in which, no matter what happens, I always end up better than before.