Slicing and Dicing

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Up before dawn, with hardly any sleep, I get ready for my new job. It’s been a couple of months since I’ve had to get ready for work. The fan belt of my car squeals in protest at the cold morning air.

Starting a new job is like stepping onto the set of a new sitcom. We’re introduced to the characters. We begin to play our part.

I put on an apron and a name tag. I weigh roast chicken and slice and dice fruit to be delivered. I come home–exhausted–do my usual routines, and take a nap.

Sincerely,

G.B.M.

Having Boundaries

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I’ve got my trusty mariner’s compass amulet (which is actually a defunct refrigerator magnet) by my side. I’m still “recovering”, you could say, from yesterday’s publication of my audio journal. It happened rather spontaneously, and shifted me emotionally. I couldn’t say those things and share it with the world if I wasn’t ready to change.

Strengthening Boundaries

It’s important for me to think about personal boundaries, and enforce them. I have to do that for myself. There’s a feeling of guilt when I do, but that’s a weakness that I want to strengthen. Not all ego is bad, but a weak ego is, in fact, a weakness, and weaknesses get exploited.

My weakness is in having and preserving personal boundaries. I respect other people’s boundaries and my own. I think it can be a win-win, but from now on I won’t be on the losing end of having boundaries.

Physical Boundaries

These boundaries are mostly internal, but they’re also physical, too. I think physically you can be flexible, because we all share this world, but use common sense.

It’s good to earn and have money so you don’t owe people financially, or feel like you have to weaken your physical boundaries because of money. With money, you can take up space in the world. Again, use common sense, but don’t be intimidated, either.

Emotional Boundaries

There are also emotional boundaries. You can’t let your good feelings be based upon external conditions, or you’ll be a slave to those conditions. You can cultivate and appreciate external things, but never let your happiness be based upon them.

I’m actually OK with not needing to have a lot of possessions, although I’m moving towards manifesting more physical things and situations that I enjoy. However, I can get attached to relationships, or to people’s good opinions, and much of my self-improvement is about unhooking from external validation.

Mental Boundaries

Mental boundaries are your principles, beliefs, and values. Deep down, you know what you’re about, and you know how to think for yourself, so you need to do that.

Think for yourself! Don’t let others tell you what to think about anything. Observe and find out for yourself. Figure yourself out. Define who you are.

Some people will try to control you with words, comments, opinions, and facts. You need to have your own repertoire of words, comments, opinions, and facts.

Nobody knows it all, and if someone acts like they do, don’t believe them. Learn from those who have ideas that resonate with your whole self.

Spiritual Boundaries

Speaking of self (which is what I consider the True Self), your spiritual boundaries are sacred and impervious to harm.

Don’t ever let anything get in the way of you and your True Self. Your True Self is the God within you, a part of the Source of all that is.

Without this connection, there will always be someone who thinks they’re more powerful than you, or that you owe them something, but if you know that you have a direct connection to your Source, you are invincible.

Sincerely,

G.B.M.

Being Authentic and Taking Care

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I love authentic people, and living authentically is probably my highest value in life. When I love people, it’s about as authentic as humanly possible. With that said, one of my biggest lessons is that it’s not my job to save people.

When you’re authentic, your life becomes great, and not everyone is going to be comfortable with that. Sometimes you compromise yourself, but that’s not something you can keep up and be happy. I’ve had to let go and let God many times.

For idealistic people, burnout is a real danger. Our minds give us energy, but our body needs to rest and have real food, not just ideas. We need to take care of ourselves.

Sincerely,

G.B.M.

Looking Good

  
The Life Areas are:

  • Spirit
  • Thoughts
  • Emotions
  • Body
  • Finances
  • Vocation
  • Relationships
  • World

I don’t write about the Body Life Area too often, but of course, it’s important, and I frequently focus on it outside of blogging. For example, HEN stands for Hygiene/Exercise/Nutrition. It also includes physical health, and things like having safety, shelter, and stability.

Part of my self-improvement has been about having a positive self-image. That’s more of a Thoughts Life Area kind of topic. Having a negative self-image can lead to overcompensating or narcissism, which isn’t really what I’m wanting.

I cut my hair today, and it’s cool that I had a conversation with my dad about it. We have a unique, one of a kind relationship. While I’m all about philosophy and spirituality, I realize that physical appearance is a part of life.

~ GBM

(Appreciating) Confidence and Independence

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It’s bitterly cold in the garage tonight. I’ve been getting in and out of bed to go to the bathroom, so I decided to just stay up until I feel better. In any case, I feel happy.

Part of my day is devoted to caring for the shop cats, which includes coming up with ways to either block, persuade, or otherwise train them. Of course, I’ve learned that there’s no real way to train a shop cat. I guess they’re the ones who are doing the training.

I’m learning all sorts of manly skills (and earning money for it). My intention is to be a confident and independent man, and it’s happening. More than that, I want to be in a state of appreciation.

~ GBM

Strange and Wondrous Adventures

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I’m waiting for water to boil so I can take a semi-hot bath in the shop’s garage. That’s just one of the many strange and wondrous adventures I get to experience these days. Whatever happens, I choose to align with my True Self.

~ GBM

Being Fair to Myself

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Sometimes the self-talk can be quite negative and tiring, like yesterday. I feel better now, though. I work on being positive and more objective about things.

I’ve gone from accepting how things have turned out, to actually being proud of it. There are moments of real clarity. I choose to be self-reliant.

I’m dedicated to being fair to myself, and being my own friend.

~ GBM