Whenever you take a step toward change, you will feel resistance. Call this resistance whatever you like—laziness, procrastination, anxiety, worry, discomfort, pain—but at its heart is a thing I’m intimately aware of, and that’s fear. Sometimes I even call it Fear with a capital F, for when it’s being a real bastard. That’s when I give it a capital F U right back.
You see, fear is like spiritual gravity. It contracts your soul. When your spirit reaches forward, fear pulls it back. Accept that this will happen. Know that it will happen, and you can learn to transcend it. Think about all the things you’re scared of. Scared isn’t even a strong enough word to use. What are you afraid of? What are you fearful about? Can you sense how far down your fear really goes? Can you sense that somewhere inside you, there’s a central place where all the fears you’ve ever had gravitate? That’s the source of your fear, a primal instinct to be afraid, very afraid. Every cell in your body knows this feeling. It’s built into all of us.
If you can face a small fear, you can face a big one. It’s just a matter of degree and time. One thing that will trip you up is the fear of fear.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.”
Franklin D. Roosevelt
How true is that? Are you afraid to admit that you’re afraid? What you don’t admit to, controls you. The first step in facing your fears is to admit that you’re afraid in the first place.
Imagine that all this time you’ve been running away from a phantom. You know something’s behind you, but you don’t know what it is, and if you stop running it’s going to get you. You’ve been running through a maze, turning left and right, until you don’t even know where you’re going anymore. Have you gotten tired of running yet? I have. I decided to stop. Just stop. What if I let this fearful phantom catch me? What happens?
Well, I’m here today, writing to you about facing your fears.