Choosing to no longer seek the approval of (and trying to please) others may be the most challenging thing we ever face. Sometimes anger is our only way out, but when the anger subsides, we can feel the familiar pull of old habits. However (and whenever) it happens, turning the corner is the difference between night and day.
The Great Equalizer
Happiness is the great equalizer. We can never really tell if anyone else is truly happy. We can never truly make anyone else happy unless they really want to be happy.
I have to admit that as focused and (authentically) happy as I am now, through everything I’ve learned and overcome, there’s still pain and resistance to being happy, which requires all of my wisdom (as well as others) in order to find peace. It takes a deep and abiding appreciation of the journey and the process of life. We weren’t born to please others; we were born to be true to ourselves, and the sooner we realize that, the better we’ll feel.
I’m focused on embodying myself these days–really feeling what it means to be me–so I’m not trying to use my intellect to be happy. Intrinsic motivation is the only thing that’s truly fulfilling. Life flows into open spaces.
I’m enjoying art, writing, and music. There’s nothing for me to solve anymore. I’ve gone through the tough stuff, and now all I want to do is appreciate everything.
I know that whatever has gone away can be replaced by something greater. This is what it means to be a (better) man. That’s what it means to be human.
Sometimes the best thing to do is to slow down and appreciate things.
I’m writing this in my new home, and what an amazing and incredible journey it’s been for me to get here. It goes to show how a seemingly common and mundane experience like getting an apartment can turn out to be a life altering adventure. Not only do I feel like I finally have a home, but I also feel appreciative and proud of myself.
I believe that the way we experience life is a product of our beliefs. It doesn’t matter how we came by the beliefs we have. What matters is that we have the ability to choose better beliefs.
A couple of years ago, I was at the lowest point of my life in almost every way, but I kept writing and sharing my experiences in the most positive way I could muster. That was my grace under fire and dark night of the soul rolled into one enchilada moment. In any case, I have to believe that good people win in the end.
I’m sitting in the garage of the shop, freshly lit incense burning, vanilla coffee brewing, thinking about life. I read some old emails which brought momentary tears, then appreciation took its place. I’m better off mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and financially, in that I have a steady paycheck.
I’m learning a lot at my new job, and making friends. I’ve been thinking about moving into my own apartment for a while. I accept that I have distinct parts to my personality, and I’m happy that in general I feel inner peace (about these various parts).
The Life Areas operate synergistically. If one Area is stuck, another Area can help it along. What seems like individual fragments are held together by an invisible wholeness.
Today, I realized that I can be happy for someone else, even if it doesn’t seem right or fair for things to have turned out the way they have. I know about truth, and resonate with truth, but for it to be made manifest, I must live and embody it. I know what unconditional love is; maybe that’s the point of it all.
I can count my blessings, and focus on the good. I can choose to love, and be happy. In this way, I fulfill my purpose.
They say what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, and I believe that. I haven’t been killed by what seemed like the worst experience ever. Now I’m stronger and better because of it, and I can only appreciate how I got here.
After my previous post, WordPress informed me that it was the 1000th one, so I want to thank all of the people who’ve read, liked, commented, and followed my blog. It’s one of the joys of my life. Funny to think that I wanted to quit several times.
I’ve grown up with this blog, and I’m sure my readers have, too, over the years. I wouldn’t say that it’s wildly popular like some other blogs, but that’s not the most important thing for me, and I’ve always been confused by how popularity works, anyway. What it is, is sincere.
For those of you who are on the self-improvement path, which is essentially a spiritual path, I believe it’s worth it. It’s fulfilling, meaningful, and truthful, if that’s what you want. I’m not trying to be a teacher, but I suppose I’ve taught some valuable things here, especially for myself.