Achieving and Appreciating

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Writing and publishing this post will be an achievement for me. It’s helpful to consciously acknowledge when something would be an achievement, and when something has been achieved. An achievement is something we’re proud that we accomplished.

Appreciation is also something we can consciously acknowledge. By “consciously acknowledge” I mean it requires mental focus, and by focusing on the things we appreciate, we attract more of it into our lives. Appreciating is consciously acknowledging and savoring the beauty, worth, and value of something.

Achieving and appreciating are powerful self-improvement techniques. By using both of these mental skills, we can truly create a more positive experience for ourselves, and by extension, a more positive world.

Sincerely,

G.B.M.

Being Fair to Myself

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Sometimes the self-talk can be quite negative and tiring, like yesterday. I feel better now, though. I work on being positive and more objective about things.

I’ve gone from accepting how things have turned out, to actually being proud of it. There are moments of real clarity. I choose to be self-reliant.

I’m dedicated to being fair to myself, and being my own friend.

~ GBM

Being a (Super) Genius

After getting some sleep, I’m ready to look to the positive, and move forward. Maybe it isn’t true for everyone with social anxiety, but for me, transcending that condition has been about making friends with life, rather than trying to please others. Instead of looking for love or friendship where it isn’t, I look at everything I experience as part of a universal love and friendship. What if you were in love with life itself?

After I wake up, I always have Quality Time, which allows me to ABC. I think overall it’s the single most important part of my happiness, success, and well-being. It’s not so much what I do that’s important, it’s that I take time to get into a positive state of being.

I like the feeling of being an eligible bachelor. I like being single, having a lot to offer, and being a catch. I like working on self-improvement for over ten years, because that makes me a genius at it. I’ve also been a painter and writer for over ten years, so I’m a genius at that. I’ve loved certain people for over ten years, so I’m a genius at that, too.

I’m a super-genius!

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~ GBM

Controlling the Controllable

I’m using my feelings as proof of my happiness, success, and well-being, rather than looking at conditions and feeling dissatisfied. I see that it’s the best way. It’s called being unconditional, and the other way (being conditional) has only led to anxiety, depression, unhappiness, and worry.

From my experience, unhappiness comes from wanting to control the uncontrollable, and perhaps that’s the real purpose of my feelings of unhappiness and unrest. As I let go more and more of the things I can’t control, I feel happier. I’ve realized that the only thing I can truly control is how I choose to perceive a condition; either in a happy or unhappy way. I can’t control what happens, or what other people do, but I can control how I respond to what happens.

I’ve also realized that most of the time I can’t even control what I think or how I feel about things. That sort of just happens, but I can choose to look at what I think, or how I feel, in a positive or negative way. Much of the anxiety I felt around people was from trying to control my thoughts and feelings. Now, I only control how I wish to perceive myself (whatever I’m thinking, feeling, doing, or experiencing), which is essentially saying that I’m choosing to be my own best friend.

~ GBM

Having a (Truly) Positive Attitude

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Self-improvement is my passion, and I’ve been laying the foundations and building the structures of personal development for years. Now I’m at the point where I can begin to place the keystone of my self-improvement project; having a truly positive attitude.

A keystone is:

1. a central stone at the summit of an arch, locking the whole together.
2. the central principle or part of a policy, system, etc., on which all else depends.

True success in life is centered upon having a truly positive attitude.

Our bodies have a naturally positive and regenerative attitude. Our emotions naturally rise toward positive feelings. Our thoughts have the ability to choose positive beliefs. Our spirit and life-force is pure positive energy. Consciousness, like light, is positive.

These are the elements of a truly positive attitude, which I’ve learned from my own life experience, and from different self-improvement teachings that point to the same things.

  • Acceptance of the present moment; acceptance of what is; not fighting with reality; non-judgement; equanimity; mindfulness and observation. I find these to be similar concepts and practices.
  • Letting go of resistance and worry; realizing there’s no value in negative thinking (obviously), other than pointing us toward positive thinking.
  • Finding a way to be cheerful, happy, and lighthearted about everything, no matter what happens. This doesn’t mean we don’t ever feel sad, just that it’s not our natural state to be unhappy.

To the extent that we point ourselves away from the principles of a truly positive attitude, we suffer. It’s about having faith that this keystone of self-improvement will truly hold up, which we can only know by practicing and using it every day.

If you’re wondering what the ultimate purpose of having a truly positive attitude is, it’s to have true freedom; the ability to be free no matter what the circumstance.

Here’s another great video from Actualized.org that inspired this post.

Let’s make today a better day!

~ GBM

image credit: Wikimedia

Taking Stock aka Beans, Beans, the Musical Fruit

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Stress levels are high. Nerves are frayed. Maybe it’s not as interesting or popular if I write about so called negative things, but I need to write about some of it, or I wouldn’t be painting the whole picture.

Yesterday, I learned where the cans of rice and beans, bagels, bread, and pasta, even 50 patties of some kind of meat product go when you donate to food drives. To a couple of hungry artists this was quite the smorgasbord. The lady at the food pantry was very kind and helpful. We know that in the short-term, we won’t starve.

Still, going through financial difficulties is a strain on the relationship. There’s a lot for me to learn; lots of things I wish I was already great, instead of getting better, at.

The most important thing for me to do right now is be compassionate towards myself and my situation. There are real opportunities for growth, and a way forward. Sometimes the journey gets extremely rough before it evens out.

To end on a more positive, or at least, musical note:

Beans, beans, the musical fruit
The more you eat, the more you toot
The more you toot, the better you feel
So we have beans at every meal!

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~ GBM

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Campbell's Pork and Beans via Wikimedia