Sometimes the best thing to do is stand up for yourself. Part of being a good person is being your own person. Whatever fears you may face is ultimately worth it to be free.
I haven’t solved all of the problems of life. I haven’t gotten rid of anxiety, worry, and fear. But I can face all of those things on equal footing now.
I’m grateful for the clarity that makes my life feel real. I don’t have to apologize for existing. I honor my creator when I love myself.
How many people before me have watched the sun come up every morning? I want to be like the steady sun; sometimes cloud covered, sometimes standing alone. Let all of the myriad thoughts and emotions fall in line as planets around an inner source of light.
Being able to see clearly is a great advantage. If I were to sum up what it was all about these past couple of years, I’d say clarity. Mental sharpness and emotional clarity came from it.
The mind is like an infinitely sharp knife. If we were to use such a knife, we’d want to focus on what we were doing. That’s my approach to the way I use my thoughts.
Every day we get to check our map to see if we’re headed in the right direction. We’ll go on many adventures and face many challenges on this journey, but that’s the whole purpose. Life is an odyssey, and we’re on our way home.
I got home from work last night and saw that my mom had taken out the trash in “my room.” I’m moving into my own place in a week, so I’m not too bothered by anything that happens while I’m staying with her. I’m actually quite appreciative and grateful, but I also felt like my personal space and privacy had been violated.
This incident affected my mood as I woke up this morning. After doing some daily self-improvement habits, I felt better and made peace – not with my mom – but with myself. Being clear about my values helped me to resolve inner conflict.
- Having a sense of purpose allowed me to put things into perspective (I’ve got bigger things to focus on).
- Being resilient helped me to improve my mood after (almost) waking up on the wrong side of the bed.
- Being self-reliant lets me know that I can work on having my own personal space (physically and emotionally).
How have you benefited from being clear about your most important values?
A couple of years ago, I posted about finding your top three values in life. I did the exercise again this morning, and came up with a somewhat different list of my top three values. My (current) top three values are:
- Having a sense of purpose
- Being resilient and able to bounce back from setbacks
- Being self-reliant
What are your top three values in life?
One of the main themes of my life is standing up for myself. I really let my dad know where I stood today, and I’m proud of myself for doing it. I’m happy to be my own friend in this, as well as other things.
I have certain principles I live by, and a keen sense of personal integrity. I think deeply about what I believe in, and I live by that. At the same time, my beliefs have been clarified and refined through the living of life.
I live a happy and successful life by my own standards. I choose to do things based upon joy, not fear. I’m also not here to fight other people’s battles.
When I think about contentment, I realize that it means this moment. Beneath whatever inner voices that may be speaking, is a stable and strong center. Beyond whatever social constructs that have been built, is the true self.
The days go by in a blur, hazy, like present moment memories. And yet, my senses are sharp, and my mind is clear. Life is light.
I want to remember these moments of clarity. Even as I write this, things are happening, but I remain centered. Every day, things happen, and I continue to remain centered.
It’s been a week since my last post, and in that time I hung out with my good friend who I haven’t seen in over a year. We stayed at a nice hotel in downtown Dallas, and I enjoyed being away from the shop for a while (and taking a shower, which is a luxury these days). Things felt different this time around, but also the same.
There are several themes cropping up for me, one of which is about respecting resistance, which is another way of saying follow the path of least resistance. That, and simplicity/sincerity/starting over. Of course, the path seems circular and spiraling, anyway.
The depths of appreciation are fathomless, and it’s really what I enjoy the most. Sometimes (often) I see the world with much more clarity. I’m less presumptuous about everything.