A self–fulfilling prophecy is a prediction that directly or indirectly causes itself to become true, by the very terms of the prophecy itself, due to positive feedback between belief and behavior.
That’s the amazing and also scary thing about self-improvement, which is really another term for truth-seeking; when you have the courage to face the truth about who you truly are, your life will change in miraculous and sometimes terrifying ways.
When I look back at some of the things I wrote down years ago, the power and truth of it takes my breath away. I was intuitively prophesying my own future. It hasn’t always been easy, but it’s been immeasurably meaningful.
I asked the I Ching:
“What can I do to have courage and strength?”
The answer was so powerful that I had to write it down in my journal so I could internalize it, and I also wanted to type it up on my blog to share it with you, because it’s just good advice in general.
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It is time to eliminate bad habits and behaviors and free yourself from relationships and situations that drag you down. Deliverance requires inner resolution and perseverance. You alone can save yourself. No one else can do it for you. But if you stay the course, people who undermine your self-worth or have an unhealthy influence in your life will see that you cannot be taken advantage of and they will withdraw of their own accord.
“Delivering yourself” means treating yourself with respect and developing a positive attitude toward who you are and what you do. Deliverance requires a narrative of redemption. It means believing in a vision of yourself and in a story of your life in which things can get better. If you hold fast to this vision and make this story your story, your life will indeed improve.
By believing in yourself and becoming committed to your deliverance, you will no longer attract harmful people, and you will no longer get yourself entangled in unhealthy behaviors and difficult circumstances that you could have avoided.
Jack M. Balkin, The Laws of Change
I need to stay focused on this message, because I need courage and strength in order to stay on the right path. After a lifetime of approval seeking and people pleasing, I finally know what it’s like to be free, but there are still backsliding and self-sabotaging habits that I need to be aware of. Only I can save myself.
Breaking the ice, getting my feet, and taking a leap of faith.
It’s been so long since I’ve thought of myself as an anxious person, that it took me quite by surprise to realize I felt anxious.
- Changes at work.
- Applying for new jobs.
Check, check, and check.
Anxietyville, here I come.
But for me, anxiety always brings along its friend aka depression aka Mr. Doldrums.
Being a Warrior (not a worrier)
Adversity can bring out the warrior within. My sub-personalities are a raucous bunch, but in more recent times a new archetype has emerged; the inner warrior. Things don’t have to be certain when we have courage.
Crossing (yet) another bridge. Moments like petals drifted far away. (Try to) trace something back to Source; it comes round full circle.
Within (the heart); a lion’s roar. Things aren’t what they seem. Zooming out, things look different, like day and night.
Courage is sometimes won with tears. I usually feel proud, grateful, and happy. So says my mood tracking app.
It’s been a while, and now that the end of April is here, it seems that my life is changing in big ways yet again. For the past several months (almost a year), I’ve lived, worked, and written about life at the shop. While there are things I truly enjoy about what I’ve experienced here, I feel like it’s time for me to move on.
We all have our reasons for doing what we do, and I have mine. I don’t believe in pushing against things. I prefer to go with what my heart tells me.
It takes courage to do what I’m doing, and to do what I’ve done here at the shop. It’s been a while since I’ve felt genuinely proud of myself, which is to say, I feel like myself. My adventures continue.
Things feel better in the light of a new day. I’m enjoying this sense of inner freedom. Archetypes are like modern gods and demons, and I’m glad to have faced them.
I see people who are prisoners of the roles they play. Fear is a big part of it. Part of facing our fears is having the courage to define our own roles in this play.
It seems like I used to be afraid of everything, not just socially, but also existentially. Because my intention is to improve myself, I experience things that give me that opportunity. I can definitely see who I am more clearly, and most importantly, be happy about who I am.