Flowing Life


I’m focused on embodying myself these days–really feeling what it means to be me–so I’m not trying to use my intellect to be happy. Intrinsic motivation is the only thing that’s truly fulfilling. Life flows into open spaces.

Creative Trinity

I’m enjoying art, writing, and music. There’s nothing for me to solve anymore. I’ve gone through the tough stuff, and now all I want to do is appreciate everything.


I know that whatever has gone away can be replaced by something greater. This is what it means to be a (better) man. That’s what it means to be human.



Relaxing Begins Now


Happy New Year!

2017 is the beginning of a new chapter in our story. For me, it’s all about relaxing and going with the flow. It’s an eternal cycle, y’know.

Sometimes in life, for whatever reason, we go through challenges and difficulties, and need to push ourselves in order to break free and grow, but once we’re free, a whole new world of adventure awaits. It’s a great big universe out there.

I’m happy to see that more and more people are discovering and expressing their true selves. Let’s make 2017 the year we live our truth.


Making Connections


My mom came by the shop and gave my dad and me some food and winter clothes. The three of us sat together and talked for a while, and it was actually a very special moment. Before that happened, my dad and I were talking about moving to Hawaii.

I enjoy showing my appreciation by lighting incense around the shop, and we always seem to receive what we need. Sometimes what I need isn’t what I was expecting. The main thing is to flow with the flow.

The most important thing for me is to make a true connection, whether it’s with my Self, or with others. I live day to day, yet I’m also following my dreams. What felt like a loss is a gain beyond measure.


Working Late


This is an illustration I’m currently working on. It’s a work-in-progress so it’s purposefully blurry; not just for coolness sake. You might be wondering why I don’t post stuff like this on my www.sedonethongvilay.com site, but that would require a convoluted tale that’s better left untold at this late hour.

I tend to get ideas for writing while I paint, and the desire to paint while doing something else. I’ve learned a lot about life through painting, and vice versa. It’s definitely not something I can force, at least not if I want to do it long-term. I’ve learned to align, allow, and go with the flow. I’ve learned to leave the painting alone for a while if I’m not sure what I’m doing, and come back with fresh eyes and clear mind.

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Finding the Sweet Spot

Hello and good morning, GBM readers. I like to write an article whenever inspiration is at its peak. Right now, the insight I have is about the sweet spot between independence and dependence, which can be called interdependence. This came to me when I realized that I have a personal level of enthusiasm that feels like the sweet spot for me, and other people have their own sweet spot. When I express myself, momentum builds when other people add on to it, but if I worry about what other people do, it kills the momentum. I think this is the difference between dependency and interdependency.

Dependency is when we have a spark of inspiration, but either we kill it before it’s expressed, or we kill after it’s expressed by worrying about the results. It seems like nothing can go wrong as long as we follow the path of enthusiasm, while everything can go wrong if we don’t. It comes down to knowing what we’re enthusiastic about, and not trying to control anyone else’s enthusiasm, or worrying about what our enthusiasm will lead to. Worrying about other people’s level of inspiration, energy, or enthusiasm, and worrying about what our self-expression will lead to, are forms of dependency upon things outside of ourselves.

Interdependency is when each of us follows our own bliss, and we either rendezvous together or we don’t, but we’re focused on the energy of creativity and inspiration. We let powerful, natural universal forces bring the right circumstances together. If you think about it, everything that goes sour happens when we deviate from universal laws, and even when that happens, things will fall away and die, and be recycled as part of the flow. Nothing can escape the flow of life, so we better understand the part that we play.


Sincerity and Truthfulness

What I really enjoy is being sincere and truthful, which isn’t the same as being blunt or inappropriate. I want my relationships to be based upon sincerity and truth. I feel like whatever good fortune has come my way is because of being sincere. Sincerity doesn’t mean you know what you’re doing, but it does mean that you sincerely want to know what you’re doing. Even if you mess up and people get annoyed, by sincerely doing things better they see what kind of person you are, and that resonates with them. Sincerity and truthfulness is the opposite of manipulation and falsehood.

Sincerity is our individual path of least resistance. It flows with the universe. There’s inherent power in sincerity. It’s not about following rules, but it is about being appropriate to oneself, which is different for everyone. What’s appropriate for one person, may not be appropriate for another, and that’s for each of us to figure out for ourselves. We can tell we’re being appropriate (or true) to ourselves when we’re literally in the flow of the universe; we’re not fighting or resisting life.

With all of that said, being sincere means doing things from the heart. It means knowing why you’re doing what you’re doing, and leaving it at that. Sometimes, out of fear or wanting things to go a certain way, we conform ourselves or try to manipulate things, and that’s something I don’t prefer. By not blaming anyone for anything, we are blameless, and that’s a sign of sincerity.


Being Integrated and Whole

Afternoon Flower
Afternoon Flower

It’s afternoon, and I feel better, and I feel better that I feel better. I’m aware of the mercurial and inconstant nature of my moods. I know that at the heart of my discomfort is the desire to get along with people, while at the same time not wanting to betray who I am. I’m realizing that I can have harmony with others while still being true to myself. It’s a daily practice.

I want to be integrated and whole.

I want to feel stable and strong.

I want to go with the flow of my natural and powerful stream of well-being.

I know when I’m not integrated or aligned, because it feels bad, like I’m alienated from my Source. There’s fear in the thought of disapproval from others, but my love of being connected to my True Self trumps the fear. There’s a part of me that wants to seek approval, but that part of me has been so disappointed and disillusioned, that it finally hurts too much to try to please others, and that’s actually a very good thing for my further development.

I still want things from other people, like cooperation, resources, friendship, and love, but I’m no longer trying to fill a void. Now I can do whatever I’m doing without the extra weight of guilt, shame, and fear. I can follow my inner guidance, and learn from my life experiences.

Part of my integration is bringing together the diverse Life Areas. Each Life Area has meaning and purpose, and is capable of providing satisfaction and fulfillment. I want to dive in and squeeze all the juice out of each Life Area. Maybe my Spirit is eternal, but this is the only life I have in this particular body, and while I’m here I want to know who I am, what I’m about, and what I can do.