Continuing to Write


We are all destined to realize our true self-worth, one way or the other. It’s not so much a calling as an inexorable pull. To the extent that we resist the pull of our true self, we are unhappy.


Letting go can be difficult because it can feel like a sacrifice. Sometimes we think we’re sacrificing, but we’re not. A true sacrifice usually has to do with the death of a dearly held belief, and most of us hate to be wrong.


It’s challenging to be unflinchingly honest with ourselves. There are so many ways we can be diverted from really getting to the heart of the matter. I continue to write, because this is my bastion of peace, and oasis of truth.



Being Honest (with Yourself)


I used to think that being honest meant convincing other people of the truth, but now I realize that real honesty is being honest with yourself.

It’s an early and cold Sunday morning. My dad is snoring, one of the shop cats is purring in my lap, and the leaky pipes are drip, drip, dripping.

I have a home, and I have a family. I have work to do that earns me money. On the surface things may look a bit different, but underneath it all is the same love.


Collecting Silver Linings

I’m collecting silver linings, and I believe it’s adding up into something wonderful. Candor, candid, honesty is remarkably refreshing these days. All I can say is that I’m doing the best I can, and it’s getting better, man.



I’m negotiating with myself, which I’ve dubbed “megotiating.” I’m telling myself that my intention isn’t to deprive “me” of anything, but rather it’s to enhance, magnify, and make great whatever it is I’m wanting to do. This is a way for me to think ahead carefully before putting my plans into action.

There’s a part of me that’s high minded and wise, and another part that’s rebellious by nature, and I want these parts of me to work together harmoniously.

Instead of having inner conflict, I want to allow everything to be open for discussion. This is a way for me to be honest and fair with myself.


Being Single

I’ve been single for almost a year, although for the first few months I definitely didn’t think of myself that way (I was in a state of panic and shock more than anything else). Then for the next several months I worked on bringing some order into my life, although I still had the “wanting to get back together” vibe going on. Now I feel like I’m single, and it’s fun!

I’m going to meet up with an old friend tomorrow, and she happens to be a beautiful woman. I’m excited about it, but not in an anxious way. I worked all of that out during and after my previous relationship, which I’m thankful to my ex-girlfriend for. The neediness – which comes from wanting to fill a void – is gone. I have no void, and I don’t feel empty. I’m quite fulfilled these days. What I’m most excited about is feeling excited, and the outcome doesn’t really matter.

I think if you’ve read my articles for a while, or if you haven’t, you’ll know that I’m completely sincere about my thoughts and emotions. I may not be completely honest with others (trust me, that’s a good thing, socially), but I am honest with myself. I know very well what feels good or bad to me, and my self-improvement has been about understanding those feelings.




365 Days of Appreciation


One of the most effective and important things you can do in order to have more clarity and be more contemplative is to keep a journal.

This is especially true these days because we’re swimming in a sea of information–people telling us what we should be, what we should think, and what we should buy–kind of like this article, so the irony isn’t lost on me.

Well, the articles I write aren’t so much about dishing out advice as it is an ongoing autobiographical memoir, but anyway, my point is that keeping a journal is vital if you think a lot, and writing down things you appreciate is vital if you feel a lot.

So, for the last year I’ve been keeping a list of appreciations, but I’ve been doing it with a twist. As I go about my day, I deliberately pause after I do something and write down the activity (actually I type it, since I use my phone). This helps me to be more mindful, self-aware, and honest, while helping me be less judgmental and unconscious about what I’m doing.

For example, when I wake up, the first thing I do is make an entry in my list of appreciations like this:

  • Sleeping

This reminds me that being able to sleep comfortably really is something to appreciate. There are people who don’t even get to do that. Then I feed my cat, so I put in:

  • Being with Beans

This reminds that even though my cat goes crazy sometimes, I do appreciate having her around.

Then I make some coffee:

  • Having coffee

You get the idea. Sometimes I do it right after the activity, and sometimes I’ll input several of them at different parts of the day.

Since today is my 365th day of doing this, I wanted to share this technique with you, and also give it a rest to see what my experiment has taught me. I’ll either keep it going or do something else that’s similar.

Let’s make today a better day!


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Living in Good Faith


We can never truly run away from who we are.

When we practice self-awareness, the world opens up to us, but when we practice self-deception, we become prisoners of our own fears.

We have resources within us that will guide the way, but we must be honest with ourselves, and live in good faith.

This is how we come to know ourselves and our place in the world.

Life calls us to greater and greater heights.

We’re meant to be conscious and think for ourselves, in harmony with nature and each other.

This is our responsibility and purpose.

When we let go of the unnecessary weight of blame, and stop wasting time looking for excuses, we’re free to live our true purpose and go on the adventure of a lifetime.

When we fully accept responsibility for ourselves, we’ll have the courage to be who we really are.

With self-acceptance, the things we used to fear can be our most faithful and trusted companions.

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