On the journey of self-improvement (it’s a journey not a destination), you never know what’s going to be a profoundly transformative experience. Right now, my big transformation is letting go of living up to my parents’ expectations, which ultimately is what letting go of approval seeking is all about. There’s a feeling of grief and sadness in saying goodbye to an old version of myself.
Much of self-improvement is preparation. You prepare yourself–spirit, thoughts, emotions, body–for that moment when something ignites your soul on fire. While it’s exhilarating to expand into a greater version of yourself, there must be a cooling down period in which things must reform.
We can never go back to the way things were, but sometimes we want to. When we can stop wanting to go back, then we can truly go forward. We have to want to change before it can happen.
Choosing to no longer seek the approval of (and trying to please) others may be the most challenging thing we ever face. Sometimes anger is our only way out, but when the anger subsides, we can feel the familiar pull of old habits. However (and whenever) it happens, turning the corner is the difference between night and day.
The Great Equalizer
Happiness is the great equalizer. We can never really tell if anyone else is truly happy. We can never truly make anyone else happy unless they really want to be happy.
I have to admit that as focused and (authentically) happy as I am now, through everything I’ve learned and overcome, there’s still pain and resistance to being happy, which requires all of my wisdom (as well as others) in order to find peace. It takes a deep and abiding appreciation of the journey and the process of life. We weren’t born to please others; we were born to be true to ourselves, and the sooner we realize that, the better we’ll feel.
How many people before me have watched the sun come up every morning? I want to be like the steady sun; sometimes cloud covered, sometimes standing alone. Let all of the myriad thoughts and emotions fall in line as planets around an inner source of light.
Being able to see clearly is a great advantage. If I were to sum up what it was all about these past couple of years, I’d say clarity. Mental sharpness and emotional clarity came from it.
The mind is like an infinitely sharp knife. If we were to use such a knife, we’d want to focus on what we were doing. That’s my approach to the way I use my thoughts.
Every day we get to check our map to see if we’re headed in the right direction. We’ll go on many adventures and face many challenges on this journey, but that’s the whole purpose. Life is an odyssey, and we’re on our way home.
Blogging is one of those things that surprises me by how long I’ve kept up with it. The years have flown by, which probably means it’s something I truly enjoy. Blogging helps me to discover who I am.
The journey is about self-discovery. Self-discovery is “an act or process of gaining knowledge or understanding of your abilities, character, and feelings” (according to Siri). I like that.
There’s nothing out there that’s happening to us. It’s co-creative and cooperative. The way we are within must be reflected without.
Isn’t it strange how we got here? What a long journey it’s been, yet it feels like just yesterday (when we first met). I guess, day by day, we’re building a life.
I see myself in you. We must have decided to take this journey together. It’s so wonderful to have companions.
Let’s sing and dance and send ripples out into the universe. Who knows? Maybe our inspiration comes from the dreams of fellow star children.
I was contemplating why my life is so good right now, and the answer (that came to me) was that I’m in alignment with my True Self. What that means is that I’m in alignment with my values and principles. It’s a synergistic relationship between who we are, and who we truly are.
Often, people give well-meaning advice on how to be happy, but the advice seems flimsy to me. I need real guidance, not just advice. I’ve found that Guidance (with a capital G) comes from within.
It’s possible to live according to your values, but first you have to know who you truly are. The journey to self-realization is a great adventure (maybe the greatest). It’s a never ending journey, so it’s our choice how we choose to travel.
You may or may not know about the Life Areas (or understand them), but they’re an integral part of my blog. In the Vocation Life Area, I now have at least three jobs, which is kind of mind blowing. More notable than that is my noticeably confident and positive attitude about my Vocation.
Vocation is your calling, and that includes more than just a job (or jobs). With that said, I’m ready to work and earn money. It’s good for me to focus on that right now.
I realize there’s no part of life that isn’t affected by Spirit (also a Life Area). I put my trust in my Spirit, but more than that, I actually trust my Spirit. The journey seems to be about connecting to Spirit/Soul/Self/Source.